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How would she love you more if you cheated? Why would she, as you show her she's not the only one for you? Why would you cheat? For the fun of it?

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This is actually a very easy problem to solve...you are just looking at it the wrong way. The thing is, it's about you, and no-one else. Being true to one's own nature is a must. If you can live with yourself as a cheater, then do it. If not, then remain true...even if your partner is not, it's really about you, isn't it.

Now, temptation is around every corner...and is actually a fact of life (for everyone, I would say). The question is, whether or not you wish to give in to temptation. This battle will never end, but as long as you remain true to yourself, it gets much easier to deal with...one way or another.

Just keep in mind, that if you give in to your desires, you can never go back...you lose a piece of innocence inside...but in the end, it all boils down to what is your nature. Are you true, or are you a cheater?

I chose to be true. Just my personal nature. Though there were times that it was very hard, I've never regretted it. I can look at my reflection in the mirror, and like what I see. That's just how I am, tho.

If you could live (and love) with your partner with the knowledge that she is untrue, then i guess you could be untrue, too. As long as she is OK with that, who cares? What bothers me are people who live with a double standard...that their partner should be true, but they are not...and go behind their partners back. That's a no-no in my book.

'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you' - wise words...

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Ok, how old is she? And how much actual experience does she have? (The same goes for you, of course). Many times, this is a 'problem' of youth, especially for women. Looking for self-statement in others...that little flirt does amazing things for the ego. It's only with time (and experience), that one becomes more 'stabile' within.

That's why I find older women so much more attractive...that quiet strength of self. For me, nothing is more attractive than a self-confident woman, who knows exactly what she wants...especially when that 'what' is me...

And don't forget communication...that's an important part of any relationship (IMHO). Maybe talking about this with her might help (is she one of those rare women that you can talk about anything with?). Is she truthful? And can you handle the truth? And can she? Sometimes (based on past relationships...love falls in the strangest of places it seems) it's like tiptoeing through a minefield...

Irregardless of how it goes, I wish you the best of luck...nice to know that you wish to remain true...kudos, man. It's not always easy, but (IMHO) much more rewarding...

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The question might be "what is love"
non, monsieur INI?
reminds me d'une chanson
ah, yes, What is love by haddaway.
i suggest you listen to that song, you'll
find your answer in the lyrics.
cheers

I would say 'Love Hurts' by...wait for it...Nazereth.

quote:

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Love hurts Love scars Love wounds And bonds any heart
Not tough enough Or strong enough To take a lot of pain
Take a lot of pain Love is like a flook Or just like the rain
Love hurts OO-----OO Love hurts

I'm young I know But even so I know a thing or two
I learned from you I really learned a lot
Really learned a lot Love is like a flame It burns you when it's
hot
Love hurts OO-----OO Love hurts

Some fools think Of happiness Blissfulness Togetherness
Some fools Fool themselves I guess they're not foolin' me
I know it isn't true I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie made to make you blue
Love hurts OO-----OO Love hurts OO-----OO

LEAD

I know it isn't true I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie made to make you blue
Love hurts OO-----OO Love hurts OO-----OO
Love hurts OO-----OO

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WS:
Don't give up your day job.

i love my woman, i've told her she's the only one for me.
i do unto others as i would want them to do to me.
i don't want to share her with anyone else, so i don't plan on sharing myself with anyone else either.

well... that's my problem solved.
see if you can apply that to your situation. if not, well, it's your relationship, your decision.

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reitsma

Reitsma:
Sounds like the lyrics to a Leon Russel song.

Maybe I'm missing something, but it seems to me that you're struggling with a choice, where you know the right answer, and it's what basically everyone here is pointing you to. Perhaps I'm naive, but... don't do it. And if you find out later that she's cheating on *you*, then you understand why, because you went through the same tough decision. But it sounds to me like you know the answer to your question.

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Good on ya, mate!!!

Just remember, life has a funny way of testing oneself...the 'doubt' will probably occur again...just remain true to yourself, and you'll do fine...

Just don't trust your intellect, trust your soul. Your intellect can be viewed as evil/dark/whatever you think, because it puts up these various barriers to prevent you from experiencing true love. This true love, though others can not seem to accept it, comes from the soul. The soul can be viewed as light, the intellect can be viewed as darkness. The intellect tries to decide what is best for the soul, and sometimes you suffer for this. Sometimes for your whole life. Do not leave your girl over some ideas your intellectual mind has. Well, I mean you can do what you want of course. But why would you leave someone you love based on an intelluctual descion, love has nothing to do with intelligence? Why would they leave you if they love you? This is something I have never understood. People's intellectual side is like, I should get out of here. But their heart is like, I should stay. And unfortunatly most people trust their intelect, and then they are left alone and sad for the rest of their lives.

Do not trust your intelect, trust your heart.

I guess I need to learn to read all the posts, maybe that way I won't ramble on about what has already been decided....


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Make sure, she is not reading your posts here

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Sash, you got a point! We're a good support group, but if you're trying to keep it confidential, perhaps this is not the place?

From a little personal experience, and at the risk of talking too much, I imagined myself "in LOVE" with any number of guys from the time I was 15 or so... But I knew I was truly in love with my husband when I could look at another really handsome man and KNOW that I wasn't interested. It was a real shock, actually. All games aside, when you find the right person, you will know it. And if this girlie is the right one for you - then you have nothing to worry about either way. Enjoy your time together, that's what you're here for.

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If you've made it past 2 years, and you're still together, there's hope for you.

From your posts, I gather that you're both young yet, a lot can happen to 2 people in the next 10 years. Just take it day by day and cherish the time you have together. What will be will be. If you respect her, and hopefully she respects you, the you might have a future for each other.

Love is a tricky business. Temptation is called that for a reason. Respect for each other is the key... That whole "Do unto others..." bit applies here.


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Love is a sweet misery.......And never trust a woman who kisses with her eyes open..heheh