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Your Text: Insert Slimies » Insert UBB Code » Close Last Tag \| All Tags UBB Help	bottom line, as has been pointed out already, is don't have sex unless you're willing to deal with the consequences. period. that being said, i don't feel like women who purposely dupe a man into getting them pregnant should benefit from it. nor should all the 'don't worry baby i'll pull out's get away with it either. there's just no way of separating them out so we're back to the 'don't play if you can't pay' thing. i do feel like a lot of fathers get shafted when it comes to child support. it's quite common in industries where wages fluctuate from job to job, like construction, that mothers will petition the court to raise the child support when the father is working at a higher paying job. however, once that job is over and the next job is a lower wages, the father has no recourse to get the child support lowered again. because of situations like this, my ex-husband was required to pay $800/month to his first wife for one child. i think that's completely unreasonable. [quote] [b]DL-44 said:[/b] 1) In many of the cases you talk about, where the man pays a significant amount, the child is living with the mother. Last I knew, providing a child with a place to live, food to eat, and all the other necessities of life cost money. From the cases I've seen, it takes a whole lot more than just the father's financial contribution to accomplish this. [/quote] child support is not alimony. the mother would have to provide herself with food, housing etc even if she didn't have a child. yes, obviously, it costs money to raise a child, but there's no reason for men to have to pay huge amounts. by requiring men to pay huge amounts, states are basically saying that the man should be more financially responsible for the child than the woman. [quote] [b]DL-44 said:[/b] 2) Child support is based on the income of both parties. There are mathematic formulas in place to determine child support... [/quote] i have to disagree with this as well, as it hasn't been my experience. on the flip side of the coin, we had a close friend that was only required to pay $25/month. that's hardly a sufficient amount. he was a business owner and she was a cashier. i'd like to see the formula that justifies that. also, if a woman goes on welfare with the child, the state takes the child support to pay for her being on welfare. they only give the mother $50, regardless of how much was paid. that's not child support, it's alimony. that's flat out wrong. you have to take into consideration states that punish the father for inability to pay by either chucking them in jail, seizing the tools of their trade or their vehicle or all of the above. how that makes any sense is completely beyond me. then of course, there's the issue of child support not being used for the child. i?ll not even get into that. i?m not saying that [b]all[/b] men are getting screwed here, as there?s a good portion that are getting away without paying their fair share, but overall, it is unfairly slanted. fwiw, when my ex and i got divorced, i didn't ask for child support. i asked that he pay for things that he would have paid for if we had stayed together. 50% of clothes, provide medical insurance, pay for extracurricular activities and school pictures. of course, he never did any of that stuff, but i feel my reasoning was on the mark. the judge thought i was out of my mind and told me, in open court, that when i came to my senses to come back and see him and he'd 'fix' it for me. :rolleyes: Loading...
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