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Your Text: Insert Slimies » Insert UBB Code » Close Last Tag \| All Tags UBB Help	so hopefully i might ge some advice here, i'm in the middle of a mess, and excuse the teenage drama, bleh, nobody likes teenage drama. except i can't figure out what to do. back story: girl (A) started dating boy (S) two years ago; after they had been dating a while S starting doing drugs (meth, heroin, coke) and ended up going to rehab. S starts getting emotionally abusive, but makes up for it each time with flowers, dinner, apologies, etcetera. S cheats on A, and blames her. In rehab S blames A for his drinking and drug problem, saying A isn't a very good girlfriend. BUT S and A "love" each other (about as much as teenagers can) and S gets off drugs, replacing then with a strong emotional attachment to A. Fast-forward a year. I meet A, and S, A, and I all become good friends. A and S start fighting (as in, screaming fighting) but remain together, as she calls it, because she feels comfortable. But she's dissolusioned. S's parent moves to Nevada and calls A's dad to see if S can move in with her (a month ago). But A doesn't want to, and isn't consulted, because she wants to get away from S. He doesn't get this, and casually laughs off serious conversation about it. Then A and I start seeing each other and fooling around, but decide not to have sex until she can work things over with S. She finally breaks it to him in a way he'll understand (I don't want to be with you anymore, at all, I want to move on) and S is devastated, crying, harrassing her, etcetera. She and I continue to see each other but S starts getting emotionally abusive and finally a bit physically abusive (not hitting her, but forceful). She came over to my house in tears (two nights ago), which is also common when they fight. The problem is, she can't just leave him because now he lives with her and doens't have anywhere else to stay. the other problem is, S is a really nice guy otherwise, who's obviously been hurt. And I feel terrible about that, but on the other more selfish hand A and I want to develop a closer, more intimate relationaship (i hate the word dating) but can't because of S. FUCK. Now I'm not sure why I used S and A instead of their names, paranoia I guess. But It's a sticky situation and I don't know how to resolve it. It's very stressful and I feel I can't back out (which I'd hate to do, but might help) because damage has already been done. I don't want to hurt S, and I don't want to hurt myself. I mean, yeah. I had somewhat the same problem as S (drug addiction, but not so severe) so I sympathize, because he obviously replaced that with her. It took me a long time to finally have coping skills or maturity of any kind, but I haven't recieved any good advice (my friends say: forget about him) (her friends don't want to take sides) (his friends call the house to tell her what a horrible person she is). fro the records, I'm 17, she's 16, he's 18. I asked my Dad about it, but we don't get along and hardly ever talk, and his advice was pretty much crap. My counselor gave me better advice, which is that I should back out, but I don't really see how that's possible. actually to clarify the reason this means something to me also is because until now I haven't ever been able to develop a meaninful relationship with people, holding them at arms length or using them. So I feel selfish about that. [small](Edited by [url=http://www.ozoneasylum.com/user/4153]cfb[/url] on 03-18-2006 12:05)[/small] [small](Edited by [url=http://www.ozoneasylum.com/user/4153]cfb[/url] on 03-18-2006 12:07)[/small] Loading...
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