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Your Text: Insert Slimies » Insert UBB Code » Close Last Tag \| All Tags UBB Help	Well, to phrase it in technical terms, as much as I can : there is a conscious perception of the self (who am I in factual terms) and a subconscious perception of the self. You can easilly spot it in other persons by listening to their self talk : how do they casually refer to themselves? Examples of this include "I am so stupid", "I sound wack", or positive comments, whatever casually slips into a conversation and refers to the self. You can be aware, on a rational and conscious level, of being capable of something, but if this is not backed up by a deeper, and positive perception of yourself, the "conscious" thought will tend to wander off... and back in when some accomplishment brings it back... and off. Thus, to answer question 2 : a very intelligent person may "spread" his mental energy over complications of this kind if, on a subconscious level, their "sense of selve deservednes" is not solid. Some call it "self esteem". Some call it "self image". Let's Wikipedia some : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem You can see Branden's theories play a major role in modern psychology, and psychology of self esteem. (BUT the wikipedia page is vastly flawed : historically it is ok, but does not reflect the subtleties of Branden's theories). Furthermore, here is a quote from a wonderful interpretation of Branden's thoughts, a text that is a great inspiration to me : [quote] What I had learned on my own was not in any of the books I had read. Over the next many years, I refined my understanding of why self esteem is so critically important to the health of a sexual relationship. The most comprehensive discussion on self-esteem I have seen is by Nathaniel Branden at nathanielbranden.net. He articulated it well when he wrote: "Self-esteem is an experience. It is a particular way of experiencing the self. It is to move toward life rather than away from it; to move toward consciousness rather than away from it; to treat facts with respect rather than denial; and to operate self-responsibly rather than the opposite." He defined self-esteem as "being competent to cope with the challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. It is confidence in our ability to learn, make appropriate choices and decisions, and respond effectively to change. It is the experience that success, achievement, fulfillment, and happiness are right and natural for us. It is a consciousness to trust our self. It strives for rationality, coherence, clarity, and truth." He defined six practices of a healthy self-esteem: 1) Living consciously: Respect for facts, open to new knowledge and feedback, and seeking to understand the world and ourselves. 2) Self-acceptance: Realism applied to self. The willingness to own, experience, and take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, without evasion, denial, or disowning. 3) Self-responsibility: Realizing that we are the author of our choices and actions; that each one of us is responsible for life and well being and for the attainment of our goals. 4) Self-assertiveness: Being authentic in our dealings with others; treating our values and persons with decent respect in social contexts; refusing to fake the reality of who we are or what we esteem in order to avoid disapproval; the willingness to stand up for ourselves and our ideas in appropriate ways in appropriate contexts. 5) Living purposefully: Identifying our short-term and long-term goals or purposes and the actions needed to attain them. 6) Integrity: Living with congruence between what we know, what we profess, and what we do; telling the truth, honoring our commitments, exemplifying in action the values we profess to admire. "What all these have in common is respect for reality." [/quote] [small](Edited by [url=http://www.ozoneasylum.com/user/6553]argo navis[/url] on 12-23-2007 01:49)[/small] Loading...
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