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Friendship, a rant, and the right time to say <f* off>

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Your Text: Insert Slimies » Insert UBB Code » Close Last Tag \| All Tags UBB Help	[quote]if your dog is the center of your world, you got a low self-esteem issue - I mean, you're feeding the dog before eating for yourself? That's interesting.[/quote] That's in my opinion a "young" view of the world and on how humanity ticks :) I use young here in lack of a better word. If you are putting someone elses wellbeeing before yourself can in my opinion be an expression of the highest form of self-esteem. How? Well, as a father of 3 children I would not be able to produce an ounce of self-esteem if I choose to feed myself before my kids... that would be 100% selfishness, no more no less. Sure, one argument would be that through feeding myself I'd be stronger and more able to take care of my children, perhaps a logical argument, but as you place feelings of parenthood into the equation logic goes out the window and instinct takes over. Children is the only real legacy we leave once our time on this space borne golfball is over. Now how does this tie in with your post? I'm not sure, but I feel it's related. Placing yourself in the center of your own universe is to me a way to handle relations with the surrounding world and it's inhabitants. I had a similar period in my life where in retrospective, life felt simpler if I choose to ignore input from people around, and yes, to me that is what you describe when you say that a series of excuses instead of a plain "I don't feel like it anymore" places that individual in blacklist-country. Fine, that's one way of handling it. It's not my way anymore, it was but as I got more time (age) under my belt I found that all I got out of it was a pretty lonely life. Basically as I categorized people around me like that, it became harder and harder to find friends that fit into the approved behaviour :( This in turn made me create new criteria for "true friends" which only made it worse. Sadly I didn't see this as I was doing it, I've found out years after as I had moved, switched jobs and started to be around people that I didn't know. I can't tell you how to live your life and how to choose your friends, I can only share my experiences from a similar situation. For me, a sane amount of humility and a large dose of respect for how other people work was the ticket. Which ever way you choose I hope it works. Cheers/Dan / I'm a ginio.....genios......genu......smart person! / [url=http://www.dmsproject.com/] [img]http://www.dmsproject.com/gif/newSiggie.gif[/img] [/url] [url=http://faq.ozoneasylum.com/FaqWiki/shownode.php?sortby=rating&id=260]{cell 260}[/url] [url=http://dmsproject.blogspot.com/]{Blog}[/url] -{ Sleep: A common physical disorder that manifests itself as the level of blood in the caffeine circulation exeeds 20% }- [small](Edited by [url=http://www.ozoneasylum.com/user/582]DmS[/url] on 08-11-2006 21:49)[/small] Loading...
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