Topic awaiting preservation: Women + Cute = Bad? (Page 2 of 3)

I never even get the honour of being called cute, an eww is about as good as it gets for me, lol.

As for girls, I think some are cute, they're not the stunningly beautiful ones, but the ones that are lovable, they are pretty but have little things that make me think "aww", they're girlfriend material, lol.

*saves self*

Though my girlfriend is stunningly beautiful.

I don't understand why would women dislike the word 'cute' because of its connotations and prefer being called 'pretty'. When I say 'cute' to a girl, I am not thinking about a baby nor about an animal, I am thinking about a girl. It is a feeling that comes from the heart to me, I would never say to an ugly girl that she's cute (it is a question of honesty). If I qualify a baby or a cat to be 'cute', it doesn't mean that I qualify it in the same way I qualify women. So women, please stop being over-concerned with your image and simply accept it as it is

I would tend to agree with PT otherwise :

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Why don't the women just come to the realization that "cute" means "girl I want to date, enter a committed relationship with, sleep with, marry, have kids with, buy a giant house for, and love for the rest of my days?" Because that's what it means... at least as much as "beautiful" and the rest of them mean... which isn't necessarily much.

When I say "cute," that's what I mean. And since I'm just echoing every damn guy here, whose fault is it that "cute" sounds bad to women? I'm going to say it's their misunderstanding, not ours.

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gawd forbid you guys actually put some thought behind the compliments you give. i mean,
live on the edge... try giving a compliment that not every other man we encounter gives. cute has been done boys... be original. i realize that getting the few brain cells that are in your head to communicate with the vast
number of brain cells in you crotch is rather difficult sometimes...but with a little practice, it will pay off!
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hehe i'm just playin...but seriously, since wes did ask us women what we thought about it.... and we've all been honest about how we don't like the word cute, i would think you guy's time would be better spent taking notes.....






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But, on other hand, if we begin using "stunning" and "ravishing" to describe every attractive girl we see, those words will lose all meaning. They will eventually be relegated to the same level as "cute."

And how desperate would I sound saying to a girl I know only casually at work, "Hey, I like those new glasses, they make you look rapturous!"

It?s funny how the women see it that the men have to change to fit their views.

How would most women react if we started complaining that we didn't like their compliments because we misinterpret them?

ok men are from mars, women from venus. I am making a mental note with this whole "cute" topic. OK . . . . note made. Wont make that mistake.

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It?s funny how the women see it that the men have to change to fit their views.

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you don't have to change.... you can keep calling us cute, but when you hear the words "you're a great guy....but" and realize that you're forever stuck on the friend level, you're always going to wonder if it's because you said she was cute
it's kinda like a woman referring to a guy as a 'stud'....the cheese factor is so huge there!

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they say 'cute' is for dogs only...

but ask of me, i still prefer to be called 'cute' than pretty/handsome....just disgusting.

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try giving a compliment that not every other man we encounter gives

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Compliments, by nature, are formal (as in "adhering to a form," not as in "opposite of casual") expressions, and as such they are naturally going to be a bit trite. And when they're not trite (as Wes humorously illustrated), they tend to be ridiculous.

In other words, if we give compliments that no one else gives, we are either going to be considered cheesy or psychotic. And on the rare occasion that an over-the-top compliment works, it is most likely because the girl already wants to get in your pants. At least this has been my experience.

What I'm trying to say is, if you get stuck on "friend level" with a girl, it's most definitely not because you called her cute. She most likely never had any intention of engaging in the exchange of bodily fluids in the first place.


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*Sings*

4 legs: cute. 2 legs: stunning, beautiful, exquisit, ravishing, pretty, lovely, elegant, smart, intuitive, sexy, beautiful, and obviously, wonderful. <repeat>

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OK ... cute = dog, whereas dog = ugly?

Another lapse in logic ...
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No, cute=puppy; dawg=ugly. Get it straight!

The term "cute" is an offhand remark, a safe remark, an easy thing to say. If it's all I'm gonna get out of someone, I'll take it. It's not like someone's trashing you by calling you "cute".

However - if you're looking to get my attention, impress me, really compliment me, you'll take the time to think up something better than "cute".

It's not that you have to drop the word from your vocabulary, just understand that if you really want to tell a woman she looks good and have her really appreciate it, you'll use a different word.

There's a time and a place for everything...

hmmm... i was talkin and laughin with this guy the other day and he told me i was 'precious'. that's a new one on me...i've not gotten that one before. it made be blush, giggle and smile like an idiot for a minute. i thought it was very sweet......but i instantly thought of this thread haha

i wouldn't have thought that precious could be a compliment (or a compliment that i'd like)...and it's not a word i would use to describe myself... but it was still sweet and since it was new to me... he'll stand out, where as, he wouldn't have if he'd had said i was cute.

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heheh...

The first thing I think of when I hear the word "precious" is Gollum.
The next thing is my brother's evil cat, who is so named, but definitely not

But that's the point, exactly!

Lacuna - If Emps or I called you cute we'd stand out, as would the bruises and lumps that you gave us.

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cute=puppy; dawg=ugly

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So us guys have a few years before we get the paper bag then? How many years is it before a puppy is considered a dog?

LOL J/K I just couldn't pass that up.


On a serious note... I've never understood the not liking cute thing myself. I understand it isn't liked but actively disliked? Makes no sense to me. I adjust my phrasology accordingly. Actions are cute, girls are not.

Phrases in my house:
"Your so wierd."
"That was cute." (pick your favorite tone)
"STOP IT!!!"
"Hey! C'mere."
"YIPE!! No tickle!" (Yes the grammer is correct)

That's all I can thik of right now. I'm sure she'll add more... mebbe.


Oh... and Xpirex

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and would someone be so kind as to tell me what 'tentacle porn' is please?

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"Legend of the Overfiend" or "Urotsukidôji" - Edjucate yourself. This is the best example that I can remember. Most likely in the "Don't let your parents find it" section



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i had a college roommate who was really into anime and let me just say, DON'T educate yourself. just let it go and don't worry about it...

chris


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Edjucate yourself.

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I think that's going to be my new sig.

Yeah.. it's sort of a bastardized version of a bastardization of educate. It's usually Edjumacation but... I was feeling lazy this morning.

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How many years is it before a puppy is considered a dog?

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Let's see now... A puppy ages 18-20 human years in the first year of it's life, and 5-7 human years for every year thereafter. A puppy is considered a full grown dog at 3 years, real time.

Given the analogy, a woman should no longer be called "cute" once she reaches between 28-34 years of age. Those intervening 6 years are questionable, watch yourself!

Lacuna: Lonely fishermen will say anything to get a little action... even "precious"


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suho, there's more to life than sex....(holy jeepers...did *i* just say that?!) and he wasn't a fisherman

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(disclaimer for a low level post due to terminal boredom and lack of sleep)

Lacuna: He wouldn't be starring in a certain major movie trilogy, where the third part is due to be released soon, would he?

and I apologize for the next one, but someone has gotta say it sooner or later:

So could a girl in a doggy position be called cute then?

oh well... I'll shut up now and go stand in the corner...





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^^

~Sig coming soon~

Eh, if a woman is anal enough to get upset over the use of a word that they misinterpreted then I defiantly wouldn't want a relationship with them anyways ? which suits me just fine.

*Tries to resist immature comment about the previous post*

*Succeeds

Horny fisherman, golf star--same thing.

And since when has there been more to life than sex?

[crude]
In other news, "cute" would certainly not be the first word coming to mind if I were with a girl doggie style. Most likely the first word would be something like "Gnnaaahhhhaaaaaahhhhh!"
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Aaargh! Now I've been corrupted by Lacuna and her horde of deep sea fishing horny golf stars!


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bodhi:

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How many years is it before a puppy is considered a dog?
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Let's see now... A puppy ages 18-20 human years in the first year of it's life, and 5-7 human years for every year thereafter. A puppy is considered a full grown dog at 3 years, real time.

Given the analogy, a woman should no longer be called "cute" once she reaches between 28-34 years of age. Those intervening 6 years are questionable, watch yourself!

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Just to be very tounge-in cheek:
Let's see now... I try to keep with logic here..

All puppies are cute, so cute is ok for both men and women up to a certain age, right?
A male reaching 18-20 according to this analogy is no longer cute but a dog.

Then, still keeping with the analogy, a woman reaching the age of 28-34 is no longer a dog, but rather what female puppies become when they grow up, right?

And in order to be a complete grownup female puppie, I guess they need those 10-16 years more than the males.
(funny, and I've always heard that girls grow up more quickly)


*runs back to the corner ducking for cover*




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Hmmmmmm this thread has got a little confusing

I suspect while I might describe a woman as cute with my male friends I probably wouldn't say it to a woman's face (I suspect because we'd interpret it differently which is where [some of] the confusion seems to be sneaking in).

Nimraw:

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Lacuna: He wouldn't be starring in a certain major movie trilogy, where the third part is due to be released soon, would he?

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Darth Vader? Sauron?

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Ok - the analogy has gotten completely out of hand now... but for the sake of argument:

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Nimraw:
A male reaching 18-20 according to this analogy is no longer cute but a dog.

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Not quite. The maturity age for dogs is the same for both male and female dogs... A dog is not considered full grown until 3 years. From 1-3 years, a dog can still be called a puppy, and therefore cute.

I'd watch who you pulled that b-word on! I imagine you might get a worse reaction to that than you would with cute. Your reasoning is correct, but there's a line there that probably shouldn't be crossed!

I stand corrected about the age-thing, bohdi.

And I'll also refrain from any further speculations on this anology.
After all, we must keep our manners now, don't we

suho: *sigh* you are such an evil, twisted lil man.....

i refuse to let you turn that very nice compliment into something naughty!

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Suho - please tell us you wouldn't actually make that sound...


Lacuna, ignore him - unique compliments are too few and far between these days...

Ahh, I found out what "tentacle porn" is.. and frankly I am shocked at you Suho...

Also I thought that to be called 'dawg' or 'dog' meant that you had passed levels and tests of fidelity under duress ... and hence is a compliment and something to be proud of...

Perhaps women don't like 'cute because it has prepubescent tendencies hidden amonst it's possible interpretations. ? and the word 'dawg' has worn out bitch written all over it. Maybe they just want to be considered ripe and in their perfect prime constantly ... and any language however innocent and delivered in sincerity must be modified to reflect this obsession. ? i mean desire. I mean in this mean world we live in.. if anyone says somethng nice to you, and it's meant in a nice way.. then be happy. ... and don't complain because you are under some delusion of being somekind of God's gift to whoever.

...and old dogs too are called 'cute' ... see dog site: http://members.tripod.com/~stinke/dogs.html



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Xpirex: Don't be shocked. If you'll reread the thread, you'll see that I wasn't the one that brought up tentacle porn. It just happened to come in at the end of a Weebl and Bob episode that I thought of because it prominently featured the word "cute." I've never actually seen tentacle porn, and I have no plans to start watching it.

Lacuna: Now, now, no need to get upset. I was just teasing.

And say hi to Tiger for me.

bodhi: No, of course I wouldn't make that sound. I believe that standard sound in that situation would be "huminahuminahumina."

And I definitely think we should drop the dog analogy. It has occurred to me that the term for female dog would generally be considered far less flattering than "cute"...

In retrospect, I think this thread should have been in Philosophy and Other Silliness. I don't think it's legal to have this much fun in the lobby.


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Xpirex:

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Ahh, I found out what "tentacle porn" is.. and frankly I am shocked at you Suho...

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We have been saying he is a sick puppy for a while now I'm just glad other people are starting to see The Truth too!!!!!

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Well, believe what you will, but I believe this episode illustrates an important point: no one is quite as adept at derailing threads as I am. Part of me feels ashamed, but another part of me rejoices. No, we do not have a split personality. Why do you ask?


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Suho:

[/quote]Part of me feels ashamed, but another part of me rejoices. [/quote]

You pervs are all the same

Anyway so it doesn't seem like we are having a go at Suho here is a present for him:
http://www.sumo-dojo.com

Weebl and Bob's ads have been running this week on UK TV and the above site contains both of the current ones

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Does tentacle porn involve probing?

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Does tentacle porn involve probing?

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There definitely some probing questions that need to be asked about it

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